The term “happy” is used for almost any momentous occasion in our lives. From “Happy Birthday” to “ Happy Anniversary”, we wish one another happiness during times of celebration. We wish happiness for others many times throughout our lives, but when is the last time you wished yourself a “Happy Life”?
To have a happy life is to have a life with purpose. Are you ready to take control of your actions in order to have a happier life?
If you rely on others to make you happy then you may be waiting for a long time or will be disappointed with the results. However, when you put yourself in the driving seat, owning your emotions, you will be much more fulfilled by the outcomes.
Apart from relying on others, some may be trying to find happiness in “things”. Have you ever thought If only I had my dream house I would be happy or If I won the lottery then I would be happy forever. The problem with placing happiness in things is that feeling is temporary. While at the moment these things may seem to make life easier, if you haven’t changed your own thoughts and actions you will slip back into the same person you were before you acquired those “things”.
The 6 Steps
It’s not easy to be happy at all times. Life happens. However, there are 6 simple steps you can take to quickly boost your mood and bring happiness back even during the tough times.
Step #1: Smile
Ok, I know what you’re thinking “well that is common sense”, but I’m serious with this one. Smiling is one of the easiest things you can do to quickly lift your mood. When you are in a moment of doubt, worry, anxiousness, or just feeling the blues, think of something that makes you smile. From a funny joke to reflecting on a favorite memory, there are endless things you can think of to make you smile. The key is to just start smiling and soon you will see how this super easy, yet sometimes difficult step can turn your day around.
Step #2: Take In Some Fresh Air
When you find yourself in a mood you just can’t shake, stop what you are doing and step outside. Close your eyes and take a few moments to just breathe. Try not to let your mind focus on anything else but your breaths in and out. Do this exercise about 10 times. Then open your eyes. In less than 30 seconds your mind will be remarkably more clear, and you will find yourself recentered. Studies have shown you will actually be more energized from taking in the fresh air.
Step #3: Phone A Friend
When we are unhappy we tend to want to keep to ourselves, throw a pity party, and wallow away in a stream of tears. But what if you tried doing the opposite? Think of that one girlfriend that makes you laugh. She has the best one-liners and always keeps it real. Now give her a call. It doesn’t have to be an hour-long conversation as it can be a quick 5-minute phone call. By the time you hang up you won’t’ even remember why you were so upset in the first place. Talking to and being around others that are happy is contagious, so know your lifelines – the ones you can go to for a mood pick me up.
Step #4: Do Something For Someone
We tend to get wrapped up in all of our own worries and forget about others who may need our attention even more. Think of someone you know that could use a helping hand. Maybe you have a girlfriend who just had a baby. Offer to come over to be a 2-hour baby rocking service so she can have a moment to shower & breathe. Or maybe you work with someone who is going through a tough time. Offer to take them out to lunch or coffee. The point is to take a moment to think outside of yourself and see where you can lend support to others. Your body will produce instant helpers high when you serve others.
Step #5: Get Some Shut-Eye
Studies have shown that sleep has a direct correlation to how we handle negative emotions. The less sleep you have the more likely you are to be sensitive to your negative thoughts and feelings. Getting sleep is one of the hardest things to do when we are already stressed and our thoughts are running wild. To help get some more z’s in your life start by getting into bed 30 minutes before you normally do. With this extra time take 15 minutes to read anything of your choosing. This can be a magazine, an article on your kindle, or a good ole fashioned book. The key is that it must be something you read and not anything on a screen. Put the tv remote down. Put your phone or iPad down.
In those 15 minutes, your mind will start to let go of all of the worries, negative emotions, you name it and it will focus on the content you are consuming. When you are ready to close your book the important thing is to not look at your phone – which will only start your mind spinning again – but rather turn out your light, shut your eyes, and let your now calmer mind help you drift off into meaningful sleep.
Step #6: Social Media Time Out
One of the first things many of us do when we are in a bad mood is to space out on social media. Most of us are guilty of letting ourselves get lost in Instagram stories, perfect photos, and seeing what everyone else is up to while you are unhappy. By doing what seems to be a mindless act, in fact, leads to more anxiety, stress, and worry as we subconsciously start playing the comparison game. Instead of wasting time and energy scrolling through someone else’s life take that time to do something in your own life. Listen to your favorite podcast, jam out to your favorite song, grab your favorite coffee. Do something intentional for yourself.
As you can see there are many ways to shake up your feelings and turn that frown upside down. The key is putting it into action so choose at least one of the steps above and try it out today.